Watching the downward spiral

Well we spent the day with them yesterday and his cheeks have taken a sunken in appearance now. Mom was upset and after a bit of crying I actually managed to make her smile, having the kids there for the day seemed to help her. He seems to be handling it well mentally and emotionally, he's getting everything done so when he dies mom won't have to worry about it. Cremation, no funeral, these are his wishes. Although he's said that the immediate loved ones could get together and have a small memorial. And his last wishes will be honored, there will only be a small memorial. He finds out next week what kind of a time line we're looking at. I am trying to be there for mom all I can. She's a strong woman and I'm sure she'll handle this in her own way but I am also sure that I will always be there. It's all I can do now I guess, just be there.