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With everything wrong in this world that can't be helped and healed why is it that so many epic fails are happening? So many children and ppl gone missing and yet no one knows where they are. I find this disturbing, nauseating, and heartbreakingly sad.

He goes back to see the doc tomorrow

So he goes back to see the doc tomorrow and they will see how fast his cancer is progressing and give us a time frame. He's gone down so fast that I just don't think he'll be here come Christmas. It's in so many places and he's just so weak now. He can't be up and about for more than 15-20 minutes and he's got to lay down and rest, catch his breath. I'm trying to keep a brave face. Keeping the little things done around the house here so nothing will pile up too bad if I have to be with mom for a few days or so. The details of his burial and such have already been decided, he's getting his affairs in order just like the doc told him to do last time he went. I told mom that I wasn't sure I wanted to know what the doc said tomorrow but I do. She told me if I didn't want to know she'd keep it from me. But I do want to know, I want to spend as much time with him as I can. I love him, the kids love their Pawpaw. He's a great man.

Be click happy here, help the world.

Watching the downward spiral

Well we spent the day with them yesterday and his cheeks have taken a sunken in appearance now. Mom was upset and after a bit of crying I actually managed to make her smile, having the kids there for the day seemed to help her. He seems to be handling it well mentally and emotionally, he's getting everything done so when he dies mom won't have to worry about it. Cremation, no funeral, these are his wishes. Although he's said that the immediate loved ones could get together and have a small memorial. And his last wishes will be honored, there will only be a small memorial. He finds out next week what kind of a time line we're looking at. I am trying to be there for mom all I can. She's a strong woman and I'm sure she'll handle this in her own way but I am also sure that I will always be there. It's all I can do now I guess, just be there.

Terminal

Well they did it, they used a horrible word, terminal. They told him to get his affairs in order. The cancer is too far gone to even treat at this point. My hubs and I are taking the kids over tomorrow and we're spending the day. My mom is still not in too good of shape and she needs me to help with some things just in case she has to call Hospice in. I am taking my camera and tripod so I can get some pics of him with the kiddies while we're there. I'd like to get a pic of him and my mom together, something for her. I am hoping I can make it through the day with him without a complete breakdown, he doesn't need that right now. He goes back to the doc on the 13th, they'll give him a time frame then, after they see how fast it's actually moving. But he got a lot of his tests back and he's got cancer in his esophagus, lymph nodes, stomach, and pancreas. Yesterday they gave him 2 pints of blood and drained a gallon and a quart of fluid off his stomach in an effort to make him breather better. He was supposed to get a flu shot but because he is terminal he was told he couldn't have it. I've cried on and off for days now, my eyes are puffy and I am just brokenheartedly depressed. He is pretty weak now and isn't expected ot make it till Christmas at this point but we will know more on the 13th. 

What do you do now?

They say he has cancer, that it's bad, all over. There isn't much hope and the old man (spoken affectionately) is dying. He's 76 and he's lived a full life but for years he's been a dad to me, a grandfather to my kids and even knowing how old he is I am heartbroken. I don't want him to die, I just can't fathom the thought of not being able to call and talk to him. I love that old man more than he will ever know, he's old school and I love you's aren't common place for him. He has cancer in his lymph nodes and stomach, and a mass that is now closing off his esophagus. He is having a bit of trouble breathing, he can't eat without throwing up. He's lost 50 pounds in a small amount of time, in short he's dying. What do I do now?

 

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Preparation for parenthood...

It's not just a matter of reading books and decorating the nursery. Here are 12 simple tests for expectant parents to take to prepare themselves for the real-life experience of being a mother or father.

1. Women: To prepare for maternity, put on a dressing gown and stick a pillowcase filled with beans down the front. Leave it there for 9 months. After 9 months, take out 10% of the beans.
Men: To prepare for paternity, go to the local drug store, tip the contents of your wallet on the counter, and tell the pharmacist to help himself. Then go to the supermarket. Arrange to have your salary paid directly to their head office. Go home. Pick up the paper. Read it for the last time.

 

2. Before you finally go ahead and have children, find a couple who are already parents and berate them about their methods of discipline, lack of patience, appallingly low tolerance levels, and how they have allowed their children to run wild. Suggest ways in which they might improve their child's sleeping habits, toilet training, table manners, and overall behavior. Enjoy it -- it'll be the last time in your life that you will have all the answers.

 

3. To discover how the nights will feel, walk around the living room from 5 pm to 10 pm carrying a wet bag weighing approximately 8-12 pounds, with a radio turned to static (or some other obnoxious noise) playing loudly. At 10 pm, put the bag down, set the alarm for midnight, and go to sleep. Get up at 12 and walk around the living room again, with the bag, until 1 am. Put the alarm on for 3 am. As you can't get back to sleep, get up at 2 am and make a drink. Go to bed at 2:45 am. Get up again at 3 am when the alarm goes off. Sing songs in the dark until 4 am. Put the alarm on for 5 am. Get up. Make breakfast. Keep this up for 5 years. Look cheerful.

 

4. Can you stand the mess children make? To find out, first smear peanut butter onto the sofa and jam onto the curtains. Hide a piece of raw chicken behind the stereo and leave it there all summer. Stick your fingers in the flower beds, then rub them on the clean walls. Cover the stains with crayons. How does that look?

 

5. Dressing small children is not as easy as it seems: first buy an octopus and a bag made out of loose mesh. Attempt to put the octopus into the bag so that none of the arms hang out. Time allowed for this: all morning.

 

6. Take an egg carton, using a pair of scissors and a pot of paint, turn it into an alligator. Now take the tube from a roll of toilet paper. Using only Scotch tape and a piece of foil, turn it into an attractive Christmas candle. Last, take a milk carton, a ping pong ball, and an empty packet of Cocoa Pops and make an exact replica of the Eiffel Tower. Congratulations! You have just qualified for a place on the play group committee.

 

7. Forget the BMW and buy a station wagon. And don't think that you can leave it out in the driveway spotless and shining. Family cars don't look like that. Buy a chocolate ice cream cone and put it in the glove compartment. Leave it there. Get a dime. Stick it in the cassette player. Take a family-size package of chocolate cookies. Mash them into the back seats. Run a garden rake along both sides of the car. There. Perfect.

 

8. Get ready to go out. Wait outside the bathroom for half an hour. Go out the front door. Come in again. Go out. Come back in. Go out again. Walk down the front path. Walk back up it. Walk down it again. Walk very slowly down the road for 5 minutes. Stop to inspect minutely every cigarette butt, piece of used chewing gum, dirty tissue, and dead insect along the way. Retrace your steps. Scream that you've had as much as you can stand until the neighbors come out and stare at you. Give up and go back into the house. You are now just about ready to try taking a small child for a walk.

 

9. Always repeat everything you say at least five times.

 

10. Go to your local supermarket. Take with you the nearest thing you can find to a preschool child -- a fully-grown goat is excellent. If you intend to have more than one child, take more than one goat. Buy your week's groceries without letting the goats out of your sight. Pay for everything the goats eat or destroy. Until you can easily accomplish this, do not even contemplate having children.

 

11. Hollow out a melon. Make a small hole in the side. Suspend it from the ceiling and swing it from side to side. Now get a bowl of soggy Cheerios and attempt to spoon them into the swaying melon by pretending to be an airplane. Continue until half the Cheerios are gone. Tip the rest into your lap, making sure a lot of it falls on the floor. You are now ready to feed a 12-month-old baby.

 

12. Learn the names of every character from Sesame Street, Barney, and Teenage Mutant Ninja Turtles.

When you find yourself singing "I Love You" at work, you finally qualify as a parent.